Saturday, August 16, 2008
Saturday Update
Mom is still going this morning. She is like the energizer bunny, she keeps going and going. She had a rough start this morning with a little vomiting. Sherri was able to get her to the bathroom and in the shower for the first time in a while. She was too weak to help herself and it was scary for Sherri trying to do it all herself. Dad was trying to help but if you have ever seen our bathroom you would understand that it is too small even for one person to maneuver around in. Kent and his girlfriend Jessica who is a nurse at KGH, stayed with her last night. She sat up and ate some watermelon and a few bites of yogurt after her bath and is resting now. Boy am I thankful for summertime watermelon, mom would be sad without it.
Friday, August 15, 2008
Pictures from the week
Pictures from this week that I have mentioned through the blogs are on my blog. I didn't want to post things 2x's. Go here for pictures http://mrscainsworld.blogspot.com
Really Close
The hospice nurse came out this morning to take moms vitals. She has had a dropped in blood pressure. It has been about 160-180 over 100 or so and it dropped to 118/78. She has been pretty restless and has been out of it since yesterday morning. She will talk a little bit but it is usually half mumbled and short 1-3 word comments. She has been fidgeting and wants to sit up then lay down and back and forth. She got up around 5 this morning wanting to use the potty. Kim, Sherri, Dad and I were all at the house. Kim was out in the front room on the couch and she helped her get to the commode. When she got back in bed she had a hard time breathing so we gave her more morphine and the rest of her usual morning meds. She has been resting. We have all been thinking that she would pass this weekend sometime. She told us earlier in the week that she wanted to make it to Saturday. (To make it more convenient for us, which is totally mom). Our Aunt Christy (dads sis) will be here Monday and moms sister Wanda has been on vacation so she says.... I don't want to mess up every ones plans. Ha Ha, mom is always worried about all of us. She keeps asking what day it is and looking at her watch to check the time. We keep threatening to take it away. That is really all the updates I have for now. We did get all her pictures scanned and into the computer, we converted old slides to digital and Kim burned it to a dvd. We are trying to plan where to have the viewing the night before the funeral because the Hillcrest place we wanted is booked the night before. We can do it earlier in the day that day or Thursday's night. But if we do it Friday night the only place we can do it is in Pasco and I don't want it there. I don't like that part of pasco particularly and Hillcrest is super nice and classy.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
For my soul delighted in the song of the heart; yea, the song of the righteous is a prayer unto me, and it shall be answered with a blessing upon their heads. D&C 25:12 Last night, our family
sang to mom and it was such a great experience. I knew is was going to be hard but I wanted it to be a way for us all to say goodbye that would be comforting to her. I didn't exactly know how to organize things or how it would go but I just let it happen. The grandkids and some of my brothers and sisters took turns holding moms hand and talking to her. She did really well. She knew everyone was coming and was able to sit up and see everyone and had a good sense of humor. Dad started the night by talking about the headstone plans and the funeral and that he expected everyone to have a cleaned shave and hair cuts. We talked about the plans for what type and color of granite and so on. I started the music on the CD player and got the hymns going. We gathered around her bed, some on the couch and in chairs and others on the floor and started to sing. We sang, "Love at Home, I know my Savior Lives, Home Can Be a Heaven on Earth, Families Can Be Together Forever, I Need Thee Every Hour. I had everyone stand up and we ended with God Be With You Till We Meet Again."
God be with you till we meet again; By his counsels guide, uphold you; With his sheep securely fold you. God be with you till we meet again. God be with you till we meet again; When life’s perils thick confound you, Put his arms unfailing round you. God be with you till we meet again. God be with you till we meet again; Keep love’s banner floating o’er you; Smite death’s threat’ning wave before you. God be with you till we meet again. Till we meet, till we meet, Till we meet at Jesus’ feet. … God be with you till we meet again
She cried when we sang the last song and of course we all choked through it.... Dad had some words of advice for us all. He talked about remembering the feeling we all had as we sang and came together as a family. He talked about moms great example and for her love for all of us. When we have trials and are faced with temptations to remember who we are and that forever families are based on our actions as individuals. WE are responsible for our own salvation and my mom has been a righteous example to our family. He asked her if she would like to add anything and she said, "I just love you all so much!" Afterwards we all kneeled together in family prayer. It was am amazing experience, very spiritual and comforting to her and for all of us as well. Later when I took her to the bathroom she told me she was thankful for the spirit that was here and how much she appreciated us kids. Today she called her sister Doris to say goodbye and she told her, " I was surprised at how good they sang, it was very nice."
The update from the nurse is still the same, any day, its up to God and Mom from here. She has all of the things she wants and is worried about done. Her skin is blotchy off and on and she has sweating and hot flash spells. We are draining 225-250 ml about every 10-12 hours and it has quite a bit of blood in it, dark like cranberry juice which means there is more blood. Cancer and tumors make their own blood supply so it secrete fluid each time you drain. Her fluid output is decreasing each day, which is a sign her kidneys are shutting down. She did eat a lot in the last 24 hours. She keeps craving things. She had watermelon, vanilla pudding, eggs and milk in the last 24 hours. She continues to have a good attitude, a little humor and showing off her popular$100 smile.
sang to mom and it was such a great experience. I knew is was going to be hard but I wanted it to be a way for us all to say goodbye that would be comforting to her. I didn't exactly know how to organize things or how it would go but I just let it happen. The grandkids and some of my brothers and sisters took turns holding moms hand and talking to her. She did really well. She knew everyone was coming and was able to sit up and see everyone and had a good sense of humor. Dad started the night by talking about the headstone plans and the funeral and that he expected everyone to have a cleaned shave and hair cuts. We talked about the plans for what type and color of granite and so on. I started the music on the CD player and got the hymns going. We gathered around her bed, some on the couch and in chairs and others on the floor and started to sing. We sang, "Love at Home, I know my Savior Lives, Home Can Be a Heaven on Earth, Families Can Be Together Forever, I Need Thee Every Hour. I had everyone stand up and we ended with God Be With You Till We Meet Again."
God be with you till we meet again; By his counsels guide, uphold you; With his sheep securely fold you. God be with you till we meet again. God be with you till we meet again; When life’s perils thick confound you, Put his arms unfailing round you. God be with you till we meet again. God be with you till we meet again; Keep love’s banner floating o’er you; Smite death’s threat’ning wave before you. God be with you till we meet again. Till we meet, till we meet, Till we meet at Jesus’ feet. … God be with you till we meet again
She cried when we sang the last song and of course we all choked through it.... Dad had some words of advice for us all. He talked about remembering the feeling we all had as we sang and came together as a family. He talked about moms great example and for her love for all of us. When we have trials and are faced with temptations to remember who we are and that forever families are based on our actions as individuals. WE are responsible for our own salvation and my mom has been a righteous example to our family. He asked her if she would like to add anything and she said, "I just love you all so much!" Afterwards we all kneeled together in family prayer. It was am amazing experience, very spiritual and comforting to her and for all of us as well. Later when I took her to the bathroom she told me she was thankful for the spirit that was here and how much she appreciated us kids. Today she called her sister Doris to say goodbye and she told her, " I was surprised at how good they sang, it was very nice."
The update from the nurse is still the same, any day, its up to God and Mom from here. She has all of the things she wants and is worried about done. Her skin is blotchy off and on and she has sweating and hot flash spells. We are draining 225-250 ml about every 10-12 hours and it has quite a bit of blood in it, dark like cranberry juice which means there is more blood. Cancer and tumors make their own blood supply so it secrete fluid each time you drain. Her fluid output is decreasing each day, which is a sign her kidneys are shutting down. She did eat a lot in the last 24 hours. She keeps craving things. She had watermelon, vanilla pudding, eggs and milk in the last 24 hours. She continues to have a good attitude, a little humor and showing off her popular$100 smile.
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Slipping Away
Moms time is getting close. We are having the family out tonight at 7:00 and we are going to try to sing a few of her favorite hymns to her so she can have some reverent time with her loved ones.It is going to be hard and most of us will break down but I think it will be a very spiritual experience and something that will help her let go. It has been hard to see her go down hill so fast. Each day is more trying for her, her body gets weaker and weaker. She has had a very fun loving personality and has joked a lot this last week. She has been breathing pretty good but is having a hard time concentrating and hardly talking. She has been sleeping 80% of the time and is pretty out of it when she awake. She has been wanting to write letters to all her kids and grand kids. I typed the ones she wrote to her kids and she signed them because she was too tired to rewrite them. (This was a few weeks back). She keeps asking about her letters to the grandchildren because she never did get them written. I found a poem today that I really liked and dad suggested that we type it and give it to the grandchildren. I had her sign them and write each of the kids names on top. She had a really hard time. She kept falling asleep between writing love and grandma. Sherri and I took turns helping her move her arm to get the pen in the right spot. She keeps putting off the letter to dad because she wants to be alone and not have him around when she writes it. She got the first line down and got too tired. We will help her finish it later today. We got some really neat up close pictures of her hands so you can see her writing and her wedding ring all shiny.
A while back in my personal scripture reading I found some really cool things and had some great experiences. Proverbs 31:28-29. Her Children arise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously but thou excellest them all. Psalms 27:14 Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and he will strengthen thine heart. Wait, I say, on the Lord. D&C 101:14,16,29,36-38 And all they who have mourned shall be comforted therefore, let your hearts be comforted concerning Zion, for all flesh is in mine hands; be still and know that I am god. Wherefore care not for the body neither the life of the body, but care for the soul and for the life of the soul. And seek the face of the Lord always, that in patience ye may possess your souls and ye shall have eternal life. 29) And there shall be no sorrow, because there is no death. D&C 24:8- Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many but endure them for lo, I am with thee even unto the end of thy days.
D&C 58-2-4 For verily I say unto you, blessed is he that a keepeth my commandments, whether in life or in death ; and he that is faithful in tribulation, the reward of the same is greater in the kingdom of heaven. 3 Ye cannot behold with your natural yes, for the present time, the design of your God concerning those things which shall come hereafter, and the glory which shall follow after much tribulation. 4 For after much tribulation come the blessings. Wherefore the day cometh that ye shall be crowned with much glory; the hour is not yet, but is nigh at hand.
7.My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment; 8 And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes. 9 Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands.
A while back in my personal scripture reading I found some really cool things and had some great experiences. Proverbs 31:28-29. Her Children arise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously but thou excellest them all. Psalms 27:14 Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and he will strengthen thine heart. Wait, I say, on the Lord. D&C 101:14,16,29,36-38 And all they who have mourned shall be comforted therefore, let your hearts be comforted concerning Zion, for all flesh is in mine hands; be still and know that I am god. Wherefore care not for the body neither the life of the body, but care for the soul and for the life of the soul. And seek the face of the Lord always, that in patience ye may possess your souls and ye shall have eternal life. 29) And there shall be no sorrow, because there is no death. D&C 24:8- Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many but endure them for lo, I am with thee even unto the end of thy days.
D&C 58-2-4 For verily I say unto you, blessed is he that a keepeth my commandments, whether in life or in death ; and he that is faithful in tribulation, the reward of the same is greater in the kingdom of heaven. 3 Ye cannot behold with your natural yes, for the present time, the design of your God concerning those things which shall come hereafter, and the glory which shall follow after much tribulation. 4 For after much tribulation come the blessings. Wherefore the day cometh that ye shall be crowned with much glory; the hour is not yet, but is nigh at hand.
7.My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment; 8 And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes. 9 Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
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